Men vs. Women Again

I wrote about Men vs. Women before. I read something about difference of men and women dealing stress and intimacy recently. And I want to copy it here so that I can remind myself:-)

When under stress, men go to their caves and women talk. Indeed, this is one of the biggest differences between our two sexes. We cope with stress differently. Men become withdrawn whilst women want to talk. Men may come home after a long day at work and want to relax and unwind by reading something or watching the TV. They just want to forget about their problems for a while. Women, on the other hand, may come home equally stressed or tired and want to find relief by talking about the problems of their day. A guy may think that his girlfriend/wife talks too much, whilst she feels totally ignored. Unless men understand that women feel better by talking about their problems, they will continue to resist listening. By the same token, unless women understand that men are not ignoring them but simply trying to relax or solve their own problems by withdrawing into their cave, they will feel that they are personally being ignored.

Also Men are like rubber bands. This metaphor represents the male intimacy cycle. This cycle involves getting close, pulling away and then getting close again. From a woman's perspective this behaviour seems rather illogical because if you love someone, why would you be pulling away from that same someone? And why should anyone expect that the partner will be waiting patiently for the rubber band to spring back? No woman would ever assume that. But men do. They just pull away, not intentionally nor maliciously; they just do. However, if misunderstood by the woman, this intimacy cycle can lead to frustration and create problems. Women should not take it personally nor try to run after the guy. The guy will just come back naturally if there is something really there between them. But if she keeps running after him, he will just pull away even more or break the rubber band:-).